BEHIND THE CURTAIN
Born in the USSR
BY JULIA GORIN
...Since ordinary people in Russia didn"t have cars, Dad called a taxi to take Mom to the hospital when her contractions started on Feb. 25, 1970. Some procedural questions were asked, then Mom was sent to a room called the rodilka, or "birther, " where there were 10 or so women at various stages of dilation. For the night there were one doctor, one nurse, a female orderly and a lot of screaming. (Epidurals for painless labor were unheard of. ) At this stage of pregnancy a woman loses control of some bodily functions even after taking preventive measures, so that one woman would be defecating into a pot by her bed while another would be eating dinner in the next bed. Medical students passed by casually observing.
After my elder sister was born and the nurses took her away, Mom began the two-day fluid-expulsion process, which in civilized countries is managed by a changing of the sheets as often as every two hours. Back in the USSR, the new mother would soak in her puddles on a small linen sheet and oil cloth, since patients weren"t entitled to more than one or two changes per day. If she wanted an extra change, she"d have to beg and brown-nose the nannychka, as the orderly was addressed by the screaming women. Someone would always yell back: "I just gave you new sheets, and you soiled yourself again! "
Those who were able to bribe the nurse or orderly would get better service, but Mom didn"t know and hadn"t brought anything. One woman kept giving the nurse fruit so that she"d yell at her less and give her what she needed. Mom could only beg, the whole time feeling as if she"d done something wrong. Granted, the nurse was under an inordinate amount of stress. She was alone responsible for so many, and was running nonstop throughout the night.
For her second delivery, Mom never went into labor. She was two weeks overdue and the baby had stopped moving. Fearing the worst, she took the metro to the hospital.
"Are you in labor? "
"No. "
Again Mom thought she"d done something wrong because people were yelling at her as soon as she walked in: "Then why did you come? You like hanging around hospitals, do you? "
"I don"t feel anything moving. "
"Oh. OK, wait for the doctor. "
Fortunately, a younger nurse overheard the conversation. "What--it"s not moving? How long? Since last night? OK, go over there and get undressed. "
People stopped yelling at my mother then, and she got more attention.
"I don"t hear the baby, " said the old doctor who was on duty. "Is this your first child? "
"No. "
"Did the first one live? "
"Yes. "
"Good. Because the prognosis here isn"t good. "
Since there was no labor activity, labor was induced. In Russia this was called "stimulating labor, " and it required one to drink castor oil. My mother has its taste on her tongue to this day, she told me. Her body contorted inexplicably, and she became catatonic, unable to move her arms or legs.
She could hear the yelling at the others as it continued in the background: "Stop screaming! " "You"re not the first to give birth; you won"t be the last! " "Shut your mouth! " After some time, Mom"s catatonia relaxed and the contractions started. A few hours later the baby was born, and my mother heard the doctor call to an orderly: "Quick! You with the water--the baby is in asphyxia! " My mother lay emotionless, able only to hear spanking for what she believes to be nearly half an hour as the doctor tried to revive me. Finally, she heard crying.
Had my mother been a party boss"s relative, her birthing experiences would have looked a lot more like the common woman"s in America. But such was delivery for 99% of the Russian female population.
In America, women often remember abortion as traumatic. My mother barely remembers her two abortions (Russian birth control), but she can"t forget a single traumatic detail of her children"s births.
from Wall Street Journal
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